Our Kids and Sex

Decisions regarding sex are the number one problem facing teenagers today. Our children are bombarded with sex at the movies, in advertising, and on television. Few are equipped to deal with the pressures they face. Parents have a tremendous responsibility to prepare their children for the temptations they are sure to encounter. What do we need to teach them?

First, we need to teach them that sex was created by God, and is reserved exclusively for marriage (Hebrews 13:4). All sexual activity outside of marriage is sinful (1 Corinthians 6:9-10).

Second, we must educate them regarding the dangers of promis­cuity. Sexually transmitted diseases have reached epidemic proportions! And, there is the ever present danger of AIDS. Illicit sexual activity can be deadly!

Third, we should tell them of the shock, shame and sadness that come through pregnancy outside of marriage. One time is all it takes. Make them aware of the consequences of their actions. Talk about the responsibilities of parenthood.

Fourth, warn them of the long term psychological difficulties that follow abortion, or in giving up a child to adoption. Certainly adoption is preferred to murdering the unborn baby, but both are traumatic. A little self-control can spare one a lifetime of guilt and regret.

Fifth, teach them the difference between love and sex. A young man who really loves a young lady will not make demands. (Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 for an excellent definition of what love really entails).

Finally, as parents, we must keep the lines of communication open. Our kids need to know how special they are to us and to God. Let them know that they are loved. Offer them a secure foundation upon which they can build their lives. Be there for them, and trust them to do what is right.